Let’s face it, applying to schools is Stressful with a capital “S!” 

By now you’ve more or less mastered Ravenna, and finished your parent essays - often no easy feat. If you have older children also tasked with taking admissions tests and writing essays, they are likely in the thick of it now. You’ve toured some, and interviewed some. You’ve all been on your best behavior in word and in deed - but even when you know you did your best, the outcome of all your efforts is yet to be revealed. Knowing that your child looks to you for fortitude, even when they pretend they don’t, can further add to the  stress of “not knowing.”  The question becomes: how can you manage the wait with grace - for the sake of all involved? 

To live gracefully in the face of uncertainty often takes concentrated effort, but to do so is within your control. By focusing on what you can control and staying present you can build your resilience. Factor in a dash of mindfulness, a sprig of gratitude, and a strong system of support and you have a recipe for overcoming anxiety. When you can truly accept that uncertainty is a normal part of life, you can begin to challenge negative thoughts by reframing them and engage in self-care activities that give you comfort and a sense of purpose.

Strategies for managing uncertainty

There are some overarching tips for living through uncertainty, no matter what the circumstances. Getting you and your family through the school application process is certainly one of them. Here is some guidance we hope you find helpful:

Focus on the present and what you can control 

• Stay grounded: Practice mindfulness and grounding techniques, like focusing on your breathing, to stay calm and present.
• Concentrate on what you can control: Shift your energy to what you can influence, such as your own actions, rather than worrying about things you cannot change.
• Remind yourself that worry accomplishes nothing beneficial. It only makes you sick. 
• Plan in short-term bursts: Instead of getting overwhelmed by the future, focus on achievable short-term goals and take small, manageable steps. 

Adjust your mindset

• Accept and embrace uncertainty: Recognize that unpredictability is a natural part of life and try to let go of the need for perfect control.
• Challenge negative thoughts: Be aware of unhelpful or catastrophic thinking and actively reframe your thoughts to be more realistic and constructive.
• Build resilience: Reflect on past challenges you've overcome to remind yourself of your inner strength and ability to adapt. 

Prioritize well-being and connection

• Maintain routines: Keep up consistent routines for sleep and healthy eating to provide structure and stability.
• Connect with others: Stay in touch with your support network—friends, family, or a support group—for comfort and a sense of community.
• Practice self-compassion and gratitude: Treat yourself with kindness, acknowledge your achievements, and reflect on what you are grateful for to boost your mood.
• Engage in healthy comfort activities: Find healthy ways to comfort yourself, such as going for a walk, watching something funny, or listening to music.

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