When it comes to school tours, it's not just children who are being observed—parents are, too. Administrators and tour guides alike take note of parent behavior, and over the years, many have developed a keen eye for red flags.

If you're touring schools with your older child, there are even more things to keep in mind!

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START STRONG: FIRST IMPRESSIONS MATTER

Arriving on time sets a respectful tone, and entering with a warm smile and open mindset goes a long way. If you’re part of a group tour, be mindful of others—leave space for fellow parents to ask questions. When you do have a question, keep it relevant to the broader tour experience rather than highly specific to your child.

And remember: just because something isn't shown or mentioned on the tour doesn’t mean it’s not part of the school. Tours can't cover everything! Do your homework ahead of time by reviewing the school’s website, and jot down any follow-up questions to ask during a future conversation.

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SCHOOL TOUR DO'S AND DON'TS

Do:

• Turn your cell phone off
• Stay present and engaged—think like a curious investigator
• Reflect on your child’s learning style and social temperament as you explore
• Picture your family as part of the school community
• Encourage your older child to pay close attention; they may be asked about the tour during an admissions interview
• Thank your tour guide by name, and follow up with a warm email. Mention something specific from the tour and how it resonated with your family's hopes and goals.

Don't:

• Ask about college placement—save that for later
• Ask a senior student tour guide where they’re going to college
• Bring up your child's individual needs—that's best discussed privately
• Compare schools or mention other schools during the tour
• Take photos—respect the school’s privacy policies

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THE GOLDEN RULE OF SCHOOL TOURS

At the end of the day, the best way to "ace" a school tour is to be a good cookie. Show up with kindness, curiosity, and gratitude—qualities that tend to be reflected right back at you, both on tours and in life.